Sunday, June 21, 2015

A Midsummer's Night Dream

Don't regret growing older. It's a privilege denied to many.

I like to mark the passage of time by the sun cycles. Today is the summer solstice. It's the shortest night of the year and the longest day. Some people say this is the first day of summer but technically the first day of summer started on the spring equinox. That was the day the night and day were equal in length. This is the middle of summer in my book. After today the days will start to get shorter again and fall and winter are on their way.

Coincidentally, my sister's birthday is today. It's also that national holiday Father's Day. My father is gone these past 5 years. I don't have him to wish happy father's day to. He was a good father but complicated. He gave me a lot of stuff to overcome but he also gave me the tools to overcome them with. I would have rathered he not go to this trouble and just give me an uncomplicated childhood but that's what he did and that's that.

My sister understands this. She understands it from the ground level. We were in the trenches together and we've had many a talk since those days of childhood. She has become a great friend of my "mature" years. We spent years when we were younger engaged in our own worlds and I am very happy that we have come back together. She's a blast to be with. Funny, thoughtful, smart, caring. The list goes on. She can't get hardly anywhere on time but that's just her. I can deal.

My sister when she was little. So adorable.
She's the one who gave me the quote above. It's true. Many people don't get to get old. Yeah, yeah, getting older is a huge pain in the tookus but when you consider the alternative you find that maybe all that complaining is not the way to go.

Instead, how about ?..... get up off your butt and do something about it! Eat better. Get more sleep and exercise. Love your loved ones out loud. Do some crazy things that don't endanger yourself. Don't give me some kind of jazz about not having enough time. Hey,  it's your choice, always, but really. There's time. There's always time if you just look a little bit. There will be the day when you have no choice and all of you know exactly what I mean by that.

So take this as permission from me to do whatever it is that you've been putting off. And don't regret growing older. Like Mark Twain said, "somebody's got to do it."


  1. Hmm kind of a snappy tone there. Any reason in particular?
    I let the summer solstice slip by quite unnoticed/uncelebrated. Just didn't feel like it. The good thing about it is that the days are shortening again.....;)

    1. I don't know. When I was young I let everything slide. Now that I'm older (note that I didn't say old. Old is for when I'm 80 or 90. I hope to have that privilege. Or maybe I won't think it's so great. Time will tell.) Anyway, now that I'm older I just feel snappy sometimes and I just want to play it how I feel it. I don't mind engaging in a little finger wagging in the hopes that my words might inspire someone to not make the mistakes I did by letting things slide.